Some guys like skinny girls with no boobs and some guys don’t mind a little “thickness” as long as the girl is curvy with a big set protruding the front of her.However, women are constantly dieting and exercising to make their bodies look ideal for men (and to be healthy too, of course).The first girl, he said, was “a little too tall,” and the second girl was “a little too short.” Then he met my mom. Let’s look at how I do things, maybe with a slightly less important decision, like the time I had to pick where to eat dinner in Seattle when I was on tour last year.

I have read and heard countless times that guys prefer women with curves and more meat on their bones but I’m starting to wonder about that.

I have some super skinny friends who are considered really hot and always get hit on and then there are celebs who are super skinny, like Olivia Wilde and Megan Fox (she supposedly has a 23 inch waist!

), that are considered these huge sex symbols and are number 1 on every ‘hot list.’ Oh boy… I knew that sooner or later this question would come up and I would have to answer it.

And, like everything else, I will answer it honestly without sugar-coating.

Whether it’s where I’m eating, where I’m traveling or, God forbid, something I’m buying, like a lot of people in my generation—those in their 20s and 30s—I feel compelled to do a ton of research to make sure I’m getting every option and then making the best choice.

If this mentality pervades our decision­making in so many realms, is it also affecting how we choose a romantic partner?

Now, I know you've probably never heard of me - I was content to stay in the background, training guys to get fast and easy success with women in my training programs.

I am a recovering nice guy who realized that modern culture has it backwards.

It's more fun Some dating sites claim to be the place to find someone to marry.

At NZDating we say the best relationships come from having fun making lots of friends - meanwhile 'the one' often magically appears!

The question nagged at me—not least because of my own experiences watching promising relationships peter out over text message—so I set out on a mission.