That emotional bond and level of maturity is priceless. Dating someone younger may be fun for the short term, but without an emotional bond, it won’t last long. They’ve traveled, they’ve had a career, they’ve had children, and they’ve probably experienced tragedy. In other words, it’s not always about the best body or a wrinkle-free face.

We’ve had similar life experiences because we grew up in the same era. There has to be chemistry, but I can much more attracted to someone who is older if the emotional chemistry is there.

By age 40 you know who you are and what you have to offer the world – there is no longer any need to apologise for being you.

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When you’re ‘youngish’, free and single, meeting someone new is easier than you might think.

The old saying that life begins at 40 is no longer just a reassuring cliché.

The truth is there’s never been a better time to date.

Ask yourself: when have you felt more secure, more comfortable in your skin and focused on what you want in life?

When you’re dating in your 40s, there are pleasant surprises in store.

Sure, we’re more experienced than in our 20s, but we’re more open to new things, meeting new people, and reinventing ourselves.

The gossips say that the odds of a woman finding a man to marry over forty is akin to her chances of being struck by lightning.

Men don't seem to have it so well either, with men over the age of 40 having only a 12% chance of marrying.

Advertisement What makes online dating so frustrating isn’t the exaggeration, it’s that you’re participating in a depressing hierarchy of desirability — a daisy chain of quiet rejection. We have the luxury of being less goal-oriented, the same way we’ve learned to be about sex.

You spend part of your time trying to recover from, and make sense of, all these potentially lovely people who won’t give you the time of day, then the rest flicking off people in whom you have no interest. In theory, though, it should at least be less uncomfortably urgent for those of us of a certain age: somewhere between the first biological clock (gotta reproduce! We can treat the process itself — the search, the exchange of messages, the one-off dinners — as intellectually intriguing, diverting, amusing, and perhaps even a path toward self-knowledge.

By a remarkable coincidence, what people notice first about each and every one is her distinctive smile and eyes.