I met someone online years ago who wanted a friendship first. People reveal who they are all the time…we simply must be willing to listen. If we are to avoid getting hooked up with another loser we have to take control of how we date and stop trying to “catch” a guy. G/f’s are so important and a woman should always make time for her friends.

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According to psychotherapist Cynthia Wall, trust in yourself will only come from a starting point of love and care, writes Margarita Tartakovsky in the article "3 Ways to Develop Self-Trust," for Psych Central.

When you were in an abusive relationship, you were not treated in a caring, loving manner, which may have taught you to feel unlovable.

This is one reason it takes the average survivor of intimate partner violence seven times to leave for good.

And it’s one reason most people have no idea why it takes so long to heal.

View it as getting to know an old friend you've lost touch with, advises Stosny.

Use positive affirmations to retrain your mind to think positively about yourself, suggests clinical psychologist Kathleen Young in the article "Learning to Love Yourself After Trauma," on Dr Kathleen For example, to regain trust in yourself, you may adopt "I am an intelligent woman," as your mantra.

It’s way beyond reinventing yourself by changing careers or going through a massive paradigm shift.

It requires completely rewriting your self-concept to include your victimization without allowing yourself to become a victim. How can you long to return even though you know it’s the worst possible thing you can do?

Before you start a new relationship, make sure that you have begun to cope with the things that you experienced in your past abusive relationship.

Seek counseling to help you work through your emotional pain and connect with your local domestic violence program to get support.

They can’t just be some anonymous person on the internet who could be making up/saying most anything about themselves.