Dad A said, "My son came home from summer camp crying because he didn't have his bathing suit today. Many DDs have shared custody of their kids which includes a major part of every other weekend.

It was drying at his mom's house, so I sent him without it." "Why don't you get your son another bathing suit? "I pay enough child support so that she can go out and get him a swimsuit," he groused. I called Dad B and said, "How many bathing suits do your kids have? But today my youngest was pulling at her suit like it was too tight for her. Early in the relationship that means you'll have dateless nights and weekends without him...unless you date two DDs who have custody on alternate weekends.

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There comes a time and age when a single man settles on the fact that the woman he ends up with will have a ready-made family for him.

It’s the price we pay for showing up late to the ball; by the time single guy has defeated the work-force, made his bones, and decides on the whole nuclear family bit at 30 , his queen-to-be will have already danced the dance with another man.

[Feb 2016 Update: Dating a Divorced Dad – Version 2.0 Updated] Let’s Hook Up, Wait. We’ve both got some history under our belt, kids, and some requirements for what’s OK and what we simply won’t ever do again.

(Red Flags, we like to call them.) As we navigate “dating” again, we quickly realise the rules are very different.

I just have such high expectations for parents, which is the reason I am not one myself (I'm not ready! The first thing I thought when he told me this was, "Did he not learn his lesson the first time around?! That mom has joint custody of the youngest son, and she raises him with her boyfriend. I'm 28, as I mentioned before, I have a Master's degree, a solid career, my own condo, only a few years away from being completely debt free including the mortgage, etc. @banshee I completely agree that financial issues are huge relationship killers; in fact, I think I read somewhere that it was the number one cause for divorces, at least in the U. The thing with this guy is that we have talked about finances a lot.

We get along well, we like many of the same things, there's chemistry between us, etc. She is pretty much out of the picture, and the kids don't even consider her their mom. I do have some qualms about the parenting, which I could see becoming a problem should we ever get married. I think the hardest part for me is determining whether flags are really red or if they are just... I'd hate to dismiss a perfectly good guy because of imaginary red flags. One thing that makes me very unsure about him is that he is the father of 3 kids from two different women... The first woman had the two kids (one 13-year-old girl, one 16-year-old boy) he has full custody of now.) I could honestly deal with him having these two kids, but then... But they are apparently racist, which I feel very uncomfortable about... I have wanted my own kids since I was 19 but had the patience and discipline to refrain from that until I was ready (found the right guy to marry, had enough financial/mental/emotional stability, etc.) I feel like I'm ready to have my own kids if I were to meet the right guy... We both love bargain-shopping and coupon-clipping and finding great deals.It can blur your vision when trying to figure out if you want to hang with this person for the long run. I’m Looking for 100% Pure Connection Half my life is behind me. I could see myself eyeing their bodies and trying to imagine the sex, but I stopped myself, pretty quickly, even with the fantasizing. Today, I’m even getting pretty stingy with first dates. I want my next relationship to start out with the potential going the long distance. At our age kids are either a choice you made or one you didn’t. Brutally Honest If it’s not a fit on the first date I’m going to try to let you know as gently and as quickly that it wasn’t a fit. And, in fact, feelings can be scary for both men and women.And nothing against the non-parents in the group, but I’m so wrapped up with my kids, that if you don’t have that same passion and joy, we’re probably going to have to look for things to have engaging conversations about. I think that initial attraction is something that we can’t really control or completely predict, but I also don’t think we can do without it. But as we begin navigating our time together we’ve got to be able to talk about whatever we’re feeling.Our experience gives us some distinct advantages in terms of recognising what we don’t want.