It's not as taboo as it use to be when we were all younger.Heck, some of our parents never even gave us the sex talk.“Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man” was a very popular relationship advice book.

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Do it when you are ready– not when the calendar tells you to.

No, I wouldn’t be with a man who waited 90 days to spend money on me.

I just had to make sure that I was sexually involved with the person because I liked them and not simply liking the person because I was sexually involved.

Again, if the goal is finding a person to be with for the unforeseeable future, then what’s the hurry? Studies show that the longer couples wait until having sex the more positive the outcome of their relationships.

By Courtney Edwards As a Black man, embarking on the relatively difficult task of finding a soulmate, I am consistently asking myself this one question: How soon, after meeting someone, should I become sexually involved with her? Was I just looking through the scope of rose-colored lenses?

And after the deed was done, my ability to discern whether I really liked her because I felt this strong personal connection and affinity, was greatly compromised.

A ploy orchestrated by the most primitive and compulsive part of my consciousness – the Id as characterized by Sigmund Freud – to satisfy the most innate desires for sexual gratification, convincing my mind that the woman I saw before me had all of the characteristics that I was looking for?

This is why I had to institute some sort of policy for myself dictating how soon after meeting a member of the opposite sex that I would consider becoming sexually involved with them.

The premise behind this is that men don’t value women who sleep with them too soon after meeting them.

There’s this belief that if you sleep with us during the first week or the first month that you have permanently ruined your chances of a man taking you seriously.

All he has to do is wait 90 days and he’s guaranteed sex.